Category: Health + Care

ENFJ four years later

I took a Jung test online today and while it ain’t official like Meyers-Briggs is (that I took four years ago and blogged about), I’m still an ENFJ. Holler.

Your Type is

Extraverted Intuitive Feeling Judging

Strength of the preferences %
E 33 | N 75 | F 50 | J 33

ENFJ type description by D.Keirsey
ENFJ type description by J. Butt and M.M. Heiss

Qualitative analysis of your type formula

You are:

* moderately expressed extravert
* distinctively expressed intuitive personality
* moderately expressed feeling personality
* moderately expressed judging personality


Getting to the bottom of things

Just discovered Salon’s Bringing up the rear by Tracy Clark-Flory – Sex experts think that more straight men are exploring a formerly taboo hot spot. We try to get to the bottom of it. A new word has come into the mainstream: “Peg” – The term to refer to a man receiving anal stimulation…in a heterosexual manner. It’s a fun and interesting article.


Without solid stats, the best way to get some perspective on this phenomenon is to talk to sexologists. Charlie Glickman, a Good Vibrations sex educator, told me that he believed “more heterosexual men are discovering prostate and anal play with their female partners than ever before.” His colleague Carol Queen, a staff sexologist, says, “Lots of guys don’t talk about [it], but do it anyway,” and “plenty of heterosexual men include anal penetration in masturbation at least sometimes.” In the years after her educational X-rated video “Bend Over Boyfriend” premiered in 1998, it was the shop’s best-selling tape, and the top rental. Tristan Taormino, the sex educator behind several anal-focused porn flicks, including the “Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men,” has noticed that guys are increasingly “feeling safe enough to explore their fantasies” in this area.

Part of this is due to the practice rising to mainstream awareness. In 2001, popular sex columnist Dan Savage held a contest to come up with a slang word to describe the act. The winner was “peg” (the runner-up was “bob,” as in “bend over boyfriend”). It’s a lot easier to talk about when you have a cute verb to describe it. Another major factor is that the stigma of receptive anal play as “a gay thing” has been somewhat lessened. I’ve seen defensively heterosexual guys boast about prostate stimulation; these are the kind of guys I’ve actually heard use the irritating I’m-not-gay qualifier “No homo” (as in, “I like your shirt — no homo”) — before I wallop them over the head. They haven’t adopted a more fluid understanding of sexual orientation or anything; they’ve just welcomed a new form of stimulation into their definition of acceptable straight sex. As Carol Queen joked, “I wish I had a nickel for every time I’ve had to explain that it is the gender of the partner rather than the sex act desired that speaks to a person’s sexual orientation.”


Good stuff, check out the link to Dan Savage’s contest for “Peg” here. I miss me some Savage Love.


It might also have something to do with a loosening of gender roles and what it means to be masculine. As my friend, and a fellow writer, Isaac Fitzgerald wrote in his personal essay, “Why I Agreed to Be a Bend-Over Boyfriend”: “My immigrant grandfather thought that clearing the dinner table was a womanly act. I reason that since I clear the table and do the dishes … [this]  doesn’t rob me of my manhood either,” he continued. “For me it wasn’t a sexual orientation thing, or a power thing: It was just a sex thing.” He’s easily one of the most overtly masculine men I know; and, indeed, there’s something macho about a straight man shrugging nonchalantly at the thought of a dildo in the rear.


…While I was reporting this story, a male friend offered up his bum to me — for the sake of my story, of course. I laughed about the exchange to a female friend who replied, “You should totally do it. Have strap-on sex! I’ve wondered about doing that.” She had? Now, she’s no prude, but she certainly isn’t one of my more sexually adventurous friends. But, taboos change, and so do the cultural meanings of particular sexual acts. Just as the gay community has long debated the politics of being a top or a bottom, the hetero world is slowly catching up — or, um, bringing up the rear. As Pulley puts it, “We only have so many orifices. You’d think we’d all be itching to take advantage of them all, right?”

The cough that just won’t go away

There are times I hate my respiratory system though I say I love myself. Then there are times I say I hate myself though it’s not really hate. I have a love/hate relationship with my body. Here’s a nifty video on how to tell the difference between a regular cough, allergies, and something else…or worse; from CBS’s The Early Show:

The cough that just won’t go away
Erica Hill speaks with Early Show Medical Correspondent, Dr. Jennifer Ashton about possible causes of a persistent cough.
On Youtube, from CBS:

And here’s another good one too:

At Home Cold and Flu Remedies
Everything from chicken soup to honey with lemon to orange juice, home remedies are something that many of us still turn to even when we should know better. Dietician Samantha Heller tested Rebecca Jarvis and Russ Mitchell on a true or false quiz about five common home remedy assumptions.
On Youtube, from CBS:

Tonight! Artist Lecture with John E. Penny on “Allographic Drawing” at UMD, MON, Feb 21st at 6:30pm, Free

Link: Tonight! Artist Lecture with John E. Penny on “Allographic Drawing” at UMD, MON, Feb 21st at 6:30pm, Free

I can’t come to the artist lecture at UMD Stamp Gallery tonight but maybe you can! I’ll be checking out this exhibit later on this week!

Speaking of Art… second lecture
“Allographic Drawing” Talk with
Artist and theorist John E. PennyMonday, February 21st6:30pmFree
The Stamp Gallery is pleased to present the second installment of the artist lecture and performance series, Speaking of Art… Allographic art is a term first introduced by American philosopher Nelson Goodman to distinguish between autographic – being peculiar to an individual – and allographic – meaning any other form of notation that is not autographic. Penny will discuss ‘allographic drawing’ as a conceptual tool to aid in understanding a broad range of contemporary art production and the attitude underpinning it.
University of Maryland, College Park (map)Adele H. Stamp Center for Campus LifePrince George’s Room, 1st floorMetro: College Park and take 104 UM bus to campus or taxi 1.7 miles (map)
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Thoughts on: “75+ Ways to Do Good With Social Media”

I found “75+ Ways to Do Good With Social Media” on at

While still reading through this list (which means I MUST click each link so I can find out more) I am very pleased to see how others are realizing how social media must complement real life, not substitute it, in order for it to truly help others. Social media isn’t just about marketing products, it’s about sharing things with people, and understanding how the two can connect. What’s neat about this list is that each item leads to a list of other items in that theme, so you can virtually explore anything anywhere.